Don't Make The False Excuses

Sant Ajaib Singh Ji

Salutations unto the feet of Supreme Fathers Lords Almighty Sawan and Kirpal, Who have given us the opportunities to sing Their glory. First, He Himself created the yearning to meet with His Master in His within. Then after that, telling us about His yearning, He has created the yearning within us to meet Him, through His bhajans, through His words. How can we thank Him enough for all the grace He has showered upon us? We do not have the appropriate words through which we can thank Him for all the yearning He has created within us. In fact, when we vacate the nine openings and by doing the Simran, when we concentrate at the Eye Center and go behind the eyes, after connecting ourselves with that Sound which is all-pervading, only at that time can we express our gratitude to the Master for all the grace that He has showered upon us.

At work, frequently people give us gifts. We are worried by it, and we don’t want to receive them. But when we want to reject them, people feel offended. How can we handle that situation, and what are its karmic implications?
[Pappu says to Sant Ji: “Actually there is another question which I think is similar to this.”] Is the give and take between satsangis, either financial or physical, good?

Yesterday in the Satsang it was said that man has come into this world and he has to live in this world, and from the very beginning man has been living along with the other people. So it is very important for us to get along with the other people in this world. We have to live in harmony and with the love of other people. We cannot live in this world comfortably if we go into the finest details of these kinds of things. We cannot live comfortably if we just go on splitting hairs. So if you are in a situation where people offer you a gift, and if you do not feel like taking it or using it for yourself, you may accept it from them lovingly, and then you may pass it on to somebody else whom you love.

The question is of greed. Do not be greedy and keep those presents with you. And also do not tell other people that you have received or you are receiving so many gifts from other people. If you will show off to people, if you will tell other people that you have received so many gifts, it would be like you are telling them that they should also give you the gifts. It is a way of telling them that you like receiving gifts. So don’t do that. If anyone gives you a gift, you can give it to someone who really needs it. And also, it is of no use to give or pass on that gift to someone who already has so many gifts or so many things like that.

As a matter of fact, there is a deep secret behind giving the gifts. Do you know with what expectations or with what hope that person is giving you the gift? And what karmas are involved in that? So the best thing in that situation is that you should pass that on to someone who needs it. The more you can abstain from accepting gifts, the better it will be for you.

The other question was about the give and take between the satsangis. In response to this, I would like to tell you one very interesting incident which happened in the lifetime of Guru Gobind Singh between two disciples. There were two disciples of Guru Gobind Singh by the names Lohara Singh and Allam Singh. They got involved in some dealings of give and take between themselves. Lohara Singh asked for some money from Allam Singh to do some business, and he said, “We do not need to do anything in writing, we do not need to write an agreement on paper because our Master is there in between us, and He is the witness, He is the guarantee.” Some satsangis are very innocent, they are naive, and they understand that every satsangi or every person who comes to the Master has the same amount of faith as they have. But every person who comes to the perfect Master has his own background, and his faith and devotion for the Master also depends on the background of his past karmas. Those who have had a very good background, those who have had very good karmas in the past, when they come to the Master, they understand His greatness, and they sacrifice everything at the feet of the Master. Their faith in the Master is so much that if anyone asked them to do anything in the name of their Master, they would do it at once.

So like that, Allam Singh was a very innocent, a very faithful disciple of Guru Gobind Singh. So when Lohara Singh said that the Master is our guarantee, then Allam Singh gave him the money, having faith in his Master. After Lohara Singh was supposed to give that money back to Allam Singh, and when he did not return it, whenever they would meet in the Satsang, Allam Singh would ask Lohara Singh to give him the money, and Lohara Singh would always make one or another excuse. When it became too long a time, when it became too much, and when Allam Singh went on insisting for the return of his money, once Lohara Singh even frightened him by saying, “What is wrong if one disciple of the Master takes the money of the other disciple of the Master? We are brothers in faith, and there is nothing wrong if I have taken your money.”

Now when Guru Gobind Singh heard that, He thought, “This is a great injustice. It is not a good thing between the disciples.” He asked Lohara Singh why he was doing that. Instead of confessing that he was doing a mistake, he said, “Well, I am just following what You have written in the Bani. Because in the Bani it is written, and the first part of that verse says, ‘There are many in this world who take other people’s things, and after taking, they just refuse to pay back.’” So Guru Gobind Singh Ji said, “You should read the second part of that Bani also, which says, ‘Those who take the things from the other people and refuse to pay them back, they are the foolish ones.’”

Now it was very difficult for Lohara Singh to admit that he was a foolish one in front of the whole sangat. But still, he looked at the sangat and he said, “You see, Master, all these people are sitting here, all the sangat is sitting here. The first part of the Bani is applicable to me, that is for me. And the second part of the Bani can be acceptable to the rest of the people.” So it is much better if we can avoid the give and take or the financial dealings between the satsangis.

Master Sawan Singh Ji used to caution the satsangis regarding the give and take of money. He used to [warn] the dear ones from doing that. He used to say that it is a very dangerous dealing, because when the person who has borrowed the money is not able to return the money on time, then people start talking about their being disciples, and they say, “You see that he is a disciple of the Master and he has taken my money.” So that brings a bad name to the Master also.

If the money is not returned on time, which sometimes happens when you borrow the money — sometimes it is very difficult to pay the money back on time — so when that happens, then the love between the disciples finishes.

Many dear ones come to me asking my permission to do business together. I never approve of that, I never give them the permission, because I tell them, “You see, dear ones, today you love each other, but tomorrow when you will get into the business together, then you will become the opponents of each other. You will fight with each other, and then it will not be a good thing. So it is much better if you do the business alone, individually.”

There is so much more which I can say in response to this question, but lovingly, I would like to advise all the dear ones that it is much better if all the satsangis would stand on their own feet, and the more they can abstain from borrowing from other people, the better it will be for them.

You read in the history of Master Kirpal Singh how in His life, He never accepted a bribe. Even though His family always pressured Him to take the outside money or the bribes, He said, “No, I will never do that, and even if you don’t want to give me anything for my own expenses, that is fine. I will limit my expenses, but don’t ask me to accept that kind of money.” So because He did not accept the bribes, once it so happened that He did not have any money left. He was left with only two rupees, and there was still one more week before He was going to get His salary. He did not borrow from anyone, even though at that time there were many people in the sangat of Master Sawan Singh who used to go to see Master Kirpal Singh, but still He did not borrow from them. He did not get into any kind of dealings with them. He preferred to just buy chick peas [to eat], and He passed His whole week just on two rupees.

We should learn from His example. He used to say that when you take anything from a satsangi or a non-satsangi, when you borrow anything from anyone, in the morning when you sit for the meditation, you don’t meditate: you remember the person who has given you the money. So it does affect your meditation if you are dealing with anyone, if you have borrowed money or if you have taken money from anyone.

Master Kirpal Singh was a shining star in this world. In the bhajan it is written, “He who is controlled by greed is like a star which does not have any light in it.” We people do have the human form, and we look like the other human beings, but because of the greed, we are like that star which does not have any light in it. But Master Kirpal Singh was that shining star which was above greed and was not affected by it.

How can one get rid of the habit of smoking if one is addicted to it and has got depression because of the lack of nicotine?

Well, Dear Ones, it is a very interesting question, and I feel like laughing a lot in response to this question. [Sant Ji chuckles] The people who are addicted to any kind of addiction, be it smoking or anything else, they have made many stories which suit them. They convince their family members, they convince their friends and the other people near them, and instead of confessing that they are involved in the bad habit, and instead of making the efforts to give that habit up, they have made many comments and stories which suit them and which convince other people that what they are doing is the only way they can live their life.

There was an initiate of Master Kirpal Singh, and I feel very sorry talking about this. Master Kirpal Singh went and stayed in his home two times, along with many other satsangis. One of their sons got into the bad habit of drinking wine. It is very easy to get into any kind of bad habit but very difficult to give it up. So he became so much addicted to wine that it affected his body, and his body started becoming weak. About twenty days ago, the family brought that boy to me. He had formed this story: he had convinced his family that he was not drinking the wine by himself; it was some hidden power who was making him drink the wine. So the family believed in him and they brought him to me and they requested that I should release him from that hidden power.

I told him, “Look here, O Dear One, if that hidden power is bringing the wine and making you drink that wine, then I will guard against that. I will even be there in my hidden form and I will not let that hidden power come to you. But if you are paying for the wine, and if you are sending someone to bring the wine for you, then I am sorry, it is not my responsibility. But if there is some hidden power who is making you drink the wine, then I will stop that power from coming to you.” So when I told him that he laughed, and he said, “Yes, it is my mistake, it is my fault. I am addicted to the wine, and I do it myself.”

So this is what happens to people who are addicted to any kind of thing. In order to justify themselves, in order to justify their addiction, they form such stories that if they don’t use that, or they don’t smoke, or they don’t drink, this thing happens or that thing happens. This is only to convince the other people; this is only to justify their bad habit. They do not make any efforts to give their bad habit up.

Dear Ones, I had a friend in the army. He would lie down very peacefully in the morning on his bed, but then all of a sudden he would light up a cigarette, and then he would start coughing, and then he would become very restless. So he would cough and he would become restless only after lighting up the cigarette. So I used to tell him, “Why don’t you just leave your mother alone.” (I used to call the cigarette as his mother.) So that friend of mine, whose name was Yosalam, instead of confessing that it was his bad habit, he also had made this couplet to justify that what he was doing was right. He used to say that there was a Sikh who went to the heavens, and when he got to the heavens, he was asked if he had brought any tobacco with him. The Sikh replied, “No, I didn’t use the tobacco, because not even the horse of my Master entered the field of tobacco.” Yosalam said that the man was sent back from the heavens because he did not have the tobacco with him.

Sugandha Puran is one of the eighteen Puranas; it is a very precious Purana. In that Purana, all of the herbs are mentioned. So in that Purana, Brahma was giving the knowledge of all the herbs to Rishi Narada. So after telling him about the qualities and the properties of all the herbs, when Brahma came to the herb of tobacco, Brahma said that no one will use this herb in the Golden Age, the Silver Age, or the Copper Age. But when the fourth age will come, the Iron Age, then people will consume this herb a lot.

Brahma told Narada, “In the Iron Age, people will do a lot of religious deeds, they will do a lot of austerities, and they will do a lot of japas and tapas, and they will give a lot of donations and things like that, and they will do many good deeds. But because of their use of tobacco, all their good deeds will be reduced to ashes; all their good deeds will finish, just because they will also consume, they will also use this tobacco. If any Brahmin who has learned a lot and who is a scholar, if after getting all the knowledge, if he will use this tobacco, he will become a pig, or he will be incarnated as the pig of the village. And those who will give him any donations, those who will give the donations to such a Brahmin, they will also be incarnated as a pig.”

There is another Purana called Naskit Puran, written by the Naskit Rishi out of the eighteen puranas. It is said that Naskit Rishi had the knowledge of many of his previous births. So he has written that those who consume the tobacco, they will be born again in this world in the form of the jackals. And all night long they will go on howling in the jungle.

Kabir Sahib has said that those who use the hemp plant, those who drink the liquor, those who eat the fish, and those who are addicted to the drugs and other things, even if they do all the good deeds like donating, and even if they go to the places of pilgrimage, all their good deeds will be of no use. They will not be counted anywhere if they are using all those things which were mentioned earlier.

Guru Gobind Singh Ji was going along with some of His disciples. He was riding on horseback, and after reaching a certain place, as they were approaching some field, the horse stopped and did not want to go any further. So Guru Gobind Singh asked His disciples to go and find out what the reason was. So they told Him that there was a tobacco field there. So not even the horse of Guru Gobind Singh wanted to go into the tobacco field. So Guru Gobind Singh Ji cautioned His disciples. He said that they should never use tobacco, and in fact, “He who will use this, he who will consume the tobacco will not be my disciple.”

There is a state of Sangli near Bombay, and the king of that state of Sangli was an initiate of Master Sawan Singh. Once, upon his invitation, Master Sawan Singh visited the State of Sangli. So the King of Sangli, took Master Sawan Singh to show Him all the land he had. So he showed Him where his lots of land were, where different kinds of things were growing, but when they reached the lot where the tobacco was growing, Master Sawan Singh did not put His feet in that lot of land. He said, “When the horse of my great Master, Guru Gobind Singh, did not enter the field of tobacco, how can I go there?” So there are two things which we learn from this incident of Master Sawan Singh. One is that we come to know how much respect and appreciation Master Sawan Singh had for the Master Who had been in this world previously, how much love and respect He had for the earlier Masters. And the other thing which we can learn from this is that when Master Sawan Singh did not enter the land where the tobacco was being grown, we should not consume that — satsangis should never allow the smoke of the tobacco to go in their body.

Dear Ones, now even the doctors have proved and they have cautioned us, they have told us how many diseases we can get by smoking. And in many countries, they have banned smoking tobacco in public places.

Well, even in the city of Delhi they have put this prohibition on smoking tobacco in public places. This place where we are sitting is in the state of Haryana, where there is a total prohibition on liquor. So there was a cartoon in one of the newspapers very recently about a guy, one of the kind of people who justify their addiction by saying one or another thing. So there was a cartoon and he was holding a cigarette in one hand and a bottle of wine in the other hand, and the cartoon said, “If you want to smoke cigarettes, come to Haryana, and if you want to drink wine, go to Delhi.”

Baba Bishan Das, from Whom I got the secret of the first Two Words — and I am ever grateful to Him, I am ever indebted to Him, because He laid the foundation of my life — He used to tell this joke. He used to say that there was one donkey in a tobacco field, and he was picking up the grass and eating the grass and not touching the tobacco leaves. Someone, who saw him picking only the grass and not eating or touching the tobacco leaves, asked him, “Mr. Donkey, why is it that you are not eating the tobacco leaves? Why are you only picking up the grass?” The donkey replied, “Well, I have heard that those who use tobacco, those who smoke tobacco, they become donkeys in their next lifetime, and I am already a donkey.”

Dear Children, ever since this Creation was created, God Almighty has been sending the Rishis, Munis, Masters, Saints, and the Prophets into this world to put the limitations and to give us the knowledge of the things which are healthy for us, which are good for us. And through Their scriptures, through Their books and through Their words, They have given us the knowledge of those things which we should use and those which we should not use.

Those Masters have said this aloud, They have said that if anyone has gained anything from drinking wine, or from smoking tobacco, or from eating meat, or by gambling, or by any of those kinds of bad deeds, they should come and tell us. You gain nothing from consuming the liquor and smoking the tobacco. Of course, you do lose your body, you do lose your glory, you lose your money, and also people criticize you because that is a bad deed which you are doing.

The questions of all the dear ones were very good, very beneficial, for the whole sangat, and I hope that we the satsangis will try to give up all the bad deeds, all the addictions. We should not make false excuses, we should not form false stories, to justify our addiction; instead we should make the efforts and give them up.

The reality is that when the Master gives us the Initiation, He sits at our Eye Center in the Form of the Shabd, and He does not leave us until He takes us back to our Real Home. The Master proves this: that He does not leave us until He takes us back to our Real Home, in our lifetime itself. So the place where the Beloved Master is residing, if we put the liquor in there, if we put the tobacco smoke in there, do you think that we are being respectful to the Master? It is like insulting the Master. So we should make our life purer, because when we will make our life purer, only then will we progress in our meditations.